MONDAY through FRIDAY

I started with intention on Bumble. After a while (and a few “interesting” prospects 😅), I realized what it was good for, so I updated my profile to match that purpose. No confusion, no mixed signals. Clarity only.

Then I moved on to Luxy, which gave me a more dynamic approach to dating interracially and globally. The number one Luxy rule? Never match with someone outside your geographical location.

Why? Because endless messaging with no real-life plan is just pen pals with better photos. We’re not here for that.

Next stop: MM — Millionaire Dating.

Think Luxy vibes, but more community-focused. Different rooms, different intentions: business-minded, marriage-minded, or simply people who want to meet for a drink and see where it goes. The possibilities are endless.

But here’s the real question:

How do you juggle multiple apps, different locations, dating intentions and still have a work life balance?

Simple.

We schedule.

I’ve always been a planner.

I planned the success of my first female boutique in Nigeria.

I planned my wedding.

I literally planned my IVF pregnancy and scheduled the caesarean for my daughter’s birth;  yes, I’m that girl!!

Planning has always been part of my DNA.

That said… life humbled me.

I realised I was still using methods that worked in 2012 all the way into 2024–2026  and I learned the hard way during the failure of my production studio in Lagos. Ouch!

Here’s the truth: scheduling only works when it evolves.

What worked five years ago does not work now. Dating has changed. People have changed. Energy has changed.

So yes, schedule, but schedule smartly, using modern tools, fresh information, and practices that actually work now. That includes dating, meeting new people, and staying open-minded.

I have always emphasized on instagram how I’m drawn to older men…and I still am.

But plot twist… I’m now open to meeting a younger man with the wisdom and emotional maturity of a grandpa 😂

So don’t be shocked if I introduce my Prince Charming and he’s in his 30s, my age, slightly younger, slightly older… shhhhh.

We listen. We don’t judge. 😌

What I’m really saying is this:

Keep an open mind.

Give someone a chance even if they don’t perfectly match the picture you had in your head. Sometimes the blessing doesn’t come in your preferred packaging.

Approach your love life with a little faith. We don’t have all the answers and thank God for that.

Do your best, stay intentional, but trust that God knows exactly what you need and deserve.

So stop running.

Breathe.

Meditate.

Relax.

And trust that everything will be beautiful in its time. Okay? 💫

LET’S BUILD OUR SCHEDULE FOR 

MONDAY

Morning Routine

Monday morning is not for chaos- it’s for alignment.

We’re building businesses. We’re going to the job that pays the bills. We’re showing up like women who know where they’re headed.

And ladies, since we’re in our dating era, we dress how we want to be treated. Period.

Wake up one hour earlier. Yes, I know. I know. But trust me.

Do the dewy makeup, nothing heavy, nothing dramatic. Just enough that you don’t need sunglasses or avoidance tactics when eye contact happens. Because when the moment comes, you should be able to hold your gaze. Locked in. Confident.

You truly never know where you’ll meet someone. Elevators. Coffee queues. Traffic lights. Reception areas.

So make an effort before stepping out. Always. Okay?

Monday Evening Gym, but Make It Strategic:

After work, you’re heading to the gym.

Yes, you can have your regular gym membership  keep that. But on Mondays, we’re switching lanes.

This is where you use a 5-star hotel gym in your city. Go make enquiries. Day passes exist. Quality access is an investment, not a splurge.

Why Monday? Let me explain.

The men we’re talking about  the ones with structure, discipline, and a healthy lifestyle  usually have a rhythm:

Friday night: drinks with business associates

Saturday morning: gym, leisure club, horse riding, golf, tennis

Saturday evening: social plans or dates

Sunday: sleep in or gym, then lunch rooftop, outdoor, somewhere with a view  followed by an early night because… Monday

So where do they go after work on a Monday?

Hotel gyms. Quiet. Efficient. No chaos. Just routine.

That’s why the best time to invest in 5-star hotel gym visits is:

Weekdays: evenings

Weekends: mornings, around 9am

You’re not just working out.

You’re placing yourself in the right environment, at the right time, with the right energy.

And no,  you’re not hunting.

You’re simply present, polished, and living your life.

That’s the magic. ✨

Ready for Tuesday? Because it gets even more intentional 😉

TUESDAY: WORK, BALANCE & A LITTLE SWIPING

Tuesday is about structure without pressure.

You’re handling work, clearing emails, ticking boxes but you’re not overwhelmed. This is the day you create breathing room.

Tuesday evening is also when I swipe.

Not obsessively. Not desperately. Intentionally.

A few quality swipes on your dating apps that’s it. You’re planting seeds, not harvesting yet. The goal is to start conversations early in the week so nothing feels rushed.

Think of it this way:

Matches you chat with at the beginning of the week are your dates over the weekend.

Simple. Strategic. Stress-free.

WEDNESDAY: SWIPE, CHAT & DATE NIGHT

Wednesday pulls double duty and she does it well.

Earlier in the day or early evening, you’re still chatting with matches from Tuesday. Conversations deepen. Intentions become clearer. By now, you already know who’s worth your energy and who’s not.

And yes;  Wednesday is date night.

Midweek dates are elite.

He’s coming from work, mentally tired, looking for an escape. Conversation flows because there’s no pressure just two people unwinding and getting to know each other.

These dates are:

After work

Heavy on conversation

Low on distraction

And more often than not?

Wednesday dates turn into weekend plans.

If the chemistry is right, he’ll usually ask you out for Friday night and between Wednesday and Friday?

The chats get spicy. Playful. Anticipatory. We love a slow burn 😌

THURSDAY: SELF-CARE & MAINTENANCE DAY

Thursday is non-negotiable.

This is self-care day.

Nails.

Hair.

General hygiene check everything neat, soft, and handled.

Because here’s the truth: people treat you kindly when you put effort into your appearance and presentation. When you look good, you feel good and it shows without you saying a word.

The goal is always to show up effortless, not overdone.

And trust me, you’ll feel the love through the gazes, the attention, the compliments.

I’ll admit it, I’m a sucker for a beautiful compliment.

That’s one of the reasons I stay consistent with my 2–3 workouts a week.

By the third day though?

Honestly… that one is by God’s grace 🥹

We listen. We don’t judge.

FRIDAY: REAL LIFE CONNECTIONS

Friday is for real-life energy.

If you’ve been swiping and chatting earlier in the week, this is when things move offline. Dates feel natural because you’ve already built rapport. No awkward first questions. No forced chemistry.

This is also where the magic of the system shows:

One weekend, you’re meeting someone new in real life

The next, you’re chatting and planning from the apps

You’re always alternating never overwhelmed, never bored, never desperate.

Friday is ease.

Confidence.

Momentum.

By the time the weekend arrives, you’re not scrambling for plans, you’re choosing them.

And that, my love, is how Monday through Friday works for you, not against you. ✨

Standards only go up from here.

Ladies, we’re building wealth and love lives in 2026.

Let this sink in.🥃🤏🏾